M
ost people know what happens to a man when sex is infrequent, but many don't understand how a woman's body responds to the same thing. The table below compares the effects of sexual frequency in men and women. Note that a woman's changing hormones affect her sex drive too, and this may mask the effects at some times of the cycle, and multiply the effects at other times.
AS SEXUAL FREQUENCY DECLINES,
THE FOLLOWING HAPPEN:
| |
MEN |
WOMEN |
STRENGTH AND
AWARENESS OF DESIRE |
increases |
decreases |
| EASE OF AROUSAL |
more easily aroused |
less easily aroused |
AMOUNT OF STIMULATION
NEEDED TO CLIMAX |
less than normal |
more than normal |
| EASE OF CLIMAXING |
very easy
(may climax too soon) |
becomes
increasingly difficult |
| INTENSITY OF CLIMAX |
orgasm is stronger |
orgasm is shorter and
feels less pleasurable |
Clearly men and women respond differently to sexual
frequency.
1 As can be seen from the information, the less often a woman
has sex, the less she will want sex, the less she will enjoy sex, and the
more difficult it will be for her to become aroused and climax. This
has been born out repeatedly in studies of the sexual frequency of woman
who go from partner to partner: these women tend to masturbate
more
while in a relationship than while being celibate. Apparently God designed
women to become more and more interested in sex as they become more active.
Apparently God designed
women to become more and more interested in sex as they become more active.
Even more startling evidence of a woman's need for regular
sex can be found in Winnifred B. Cutler's book, Love Cycles. Dr. Cutler did a number of studies comparing the menstrual regularity of different women. Her data showed a strong cause and effect between the frequency of intercourse and the length and regularity of the menstrual cycle. Women who had sex two or more times a week had the most regular cycles, women who had sex once a week were slightly less regular, celibate women were still less regular, and women who had sporadic sex, or sex less than once a week, had the most irregular cycles. A variety of hormonal differences were seen, including higher estrogen levels in the women who had regular sex. Interestingly, it was heterosexual intercourse, with or without female orgasm, that caused the changes; neither homosexual acts nor masturbation had any effect. The regulating agent seems to be a pheromone, a sort of "airborne hormone," released by the man's body during arousal and/or climax. Dr. Cutler's conclusion was "How often a woman engages in sexual behavior with a man strongly affects her ." 2
While this is interesting, it has little relevance in and of itself. Other studies and data complete the picture. Fertility is very much linked to menstrual regularity. There is also a clear correlation between menstrual regularity and overall health: the more regular the woman's cycle, the better her overall health. The benefits of the hormonal changes in those having intercourse at least twice a week include: better fertility, stronger bones, better cardiovascular health, less depression, lower incidence of fibrocystic breast disease and uterine cancer, and a decrease in menopausal symptoms such as hot flashes and depression.3 Furthermore, regular intercourse after menopause has ongoing benefits to both the sexual and general health of the woman.
Sporadic or irregular sex is actually detrimental to a woman's
health, while regular intercourse has great benefits.
Clearly, the Lord created women to have frequent heterosexual
relations. Sporadic or irregular sex is actually detrimental to a woman's
health, while regular intercourse has great benefits. God's "rules"
for sex create the perfect situation for keeping a woman's body strong and
healthy.
1 Note: A very few men and women report different experiences than what is show in the chart, but the data is what most men and women experaince.
2 Winnifred B. Cutler, Ph. D. (1991)
LOVE
CYCLES, pp 22, New York: Random House
3 IBID pp 22